Binky Felstead reveals she suffered a miscarriage: ‘This little soul wasn’t ready for our world’
‘If you have been through this, I hope you are giving yourself time to mentally and physically heal,’ says former reality TV star
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Your support makes all the difference.Binky Felstead has revealed she suffered a miscarriage when she was 12 weeks pregnant with her second child.
Sharing the news on Instagram on Monday, the former Made in Chelsea star explained that she had hesitated about whether or not to speak publicly about the loss.
“But I felt that if I can pass on any warmth, comfort or help to anybody in the same position - well that would be great,” she wrote in a caption below a scenic photograph of a field at sunset.
Felstead, who has a three-year-old daughter, India, with her ex-boyfriend, Josh "JP" Patterson, continued: “Today would have been my 18 week mark, but sadly we had an early miscarriage just before 12 weeks.
"Not only was this heartbreaking for us, but it also came as such a shock to me.
“I hadn’t realised until then how blessed I was with having such a relatively straight forward pregnancy with India - I’ll admit I was naive enough to assume the next one would be as straightforward, but I had two early scans as I was concerned I was bleeding.”
“They found a ‘very strong’ heartbeat. However, on the third scan I was told ‘I’m afraid there’s no heartbeat.”
Felstead was expecting her first child with her fiance, Max Darnton, whom she has been dating for a little over a year and a half.
The 30-year-old went on to discuss how common miscarriages are.
“I was told by my doctor that one in four pregnancies miscarry (not that statistics make it any easier!),” she wrote before working out that, given her 1.4m Instagram followers, that means roughly 237,800 women following her could have also suffered miscarriages.
“When speaking to a few close friends about our situation, we learned that some of them too have had miscarriages in the past,” Felstead added.
“I asked them why they’ve never said anything, and they just said they felt they couldn't, or shouldn’t talk about it. Almost like it’s a taboo subject, which is heartbreaking.”
Felstead concluded her post by speaking directly to other women who have miscarried.
“I hope you are giving yourself time to mentally and physically heal and do what you need,” she wrote.
“I keep reminding myself that there was nothing I could have done, and perhaps this was nature’s way of saying that for whatever reason, this little soul wasn’t ready for the world.”
If you have been affected by any of the issues raised in this article, you can contact stillbirth and neonatal death charity Sands on 0808 164 3332 or email helpline@sands.org.uk. The helpline is open from 9.30am to 5.30pm Monday to Friday, and until 9.30pm on Tuesday and Thursday evenings.
You can contact the Miscarriage Association helpline on 01924 200799 or email the charity at info@miscarriageassociation.org.uk. The helpline is open from 9am to 4pm Monday to Friday.
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